• SECRET 1. Start with What You Control

    The dawn of a new day and all it promises- Using SECRET 1 of 9 1/2

     

    Few would disagree that the skill to manage your time is one of – if not THE – most critical skill to develop if you want to live a more productive, fulfilling life.

    Without the ability to manage your time:

    – There is too much to do!- You’ll feel like you never get everything done!

    – It will be hard to focus on what is really important!

    – Others will control your life!

    – It will be challenging to concentrate on getting the most from your life and career!

    Add to all the above stress building that can even shorten life. All this points to the fact that the skill to manage your time is very critical.

    Time Management is Key – Wrong

    Very wrong I discovered.  Wow!  It was a shocker.  Here is my story.

    I began my journey to discover the 9 ½ SECRETS the Most Successful People Use with hope, challenge, disappointment and opportunity.

    Hope that I could have my own business and help many people reach their full potential.  Since you have dreams; I’m sure you can relate to mine.  I not only wanted my own business to earn a good living for myself and family, I wanted it to be life-giving to many others.

    Challenge because we were just married and did not have great savings.  To buy the franchise to start my own business that would be life-giving would take about a year’s salary before tax. Wow!

    Disappointment.  Our first child was still born.  We were married only a year, and our first born went to heaven before we even met him.  This event, greatly anticipate, was such a disappointment.

    Opportunity. As sad a Louie’s passing was, it meant that my wife would still be working another year.  So we decided to bite the bullet and invest in the franchise.  I left a very secure job as math supervisor in a large school system with the hope in a year our fledging business would prosper.

    A Shocking Start

    It took me nine months to sell the first program.  By that time we were expecting our second child. I’m sure you can imagine how I really wanted this first ever program to go very well.

    I was so scared it might not go well that, after the third module – traditional time management – I interviewed each of the eight participants.  I wanted to be sure they were getting it and I was responding to what they felt they really needed.

    I remember the day and the place like it was yesterday: It was Wednesday, March 19, 1975 at St. Regis Research Facility.  At the end of my interview with Dr.Bob Bauress, he asked, “If I have something that I can’t make go faster or slower; I can’t give you any of mine; and you can’t give me any of yours, do you control it?”

    I stammered, “I guess not, Bob.  What are you talking about?”  What do you think he was talking about?

    The Two Questions That Changed My Life – And Can Change Yours

    “I’m talking about time,” Bob replied.  “Time is the way we measure the turning of the earth.  And no one can make that go faster or slower.  If you want a really good time management program (I’m thankful to this day he didn’t say “you have a crummy one!”) you need to answer these two questions for us:

    1. What do we really control?
    2. How do we get the most from it?”

    I told Bob I would give his two questions some thought, and get back to him.  How would you answer these two?

    The Answer to Question One

    If you consider two facts, the answer to question one will jump out at you.  The past is gone!  The future is not here yet!  So, the only thing you control is just this action now.

    With that simple answer there is good news, bad news, and good news.

    The Good News

    Your life just became very simple.  Since you only control one thing, to get the most from your time and live a more productive, fulfilling life all you need to focus on is the only thing you control – just this action NOW.

    Review the challenges we started with:

    – There is too much to do!

    – You’ll feel like you never get everything done!

    – It will be hard to focus on what is really important!

    – Others will control your life!

    – It will be challenging to concentrate on getting the most from your life and career!

    When you figure how to get the most from just this action NOW, you will be able to overcome each of the above including overcoming the stress that come with each of the above.

    The Bad News

    It is not easy to figure how to get the most from just this action NOW.  Many books exist talking around the real question.  But few begin by acknowledging the obvious – the only thing you control is just this action now. 

    You can build on the past.  You can plan for the future.  But whether you like it or not, you can’t live in the past.  You can’t live in the future.  The only place you can live is in the here and now.

    Here is the bad news in one sentence: It is difficult to get the most from just this action now, and do it consistently, day in, day out, work days, personal days, all day and all night.

    The Good News

    After Bob asked me those two questions, I had the answer to the first question – What do we really control? – by sundown that day.

    The complete answer to the second – How do we get the most from it – took me years.  But the privilege that I had, and the benefit that I bring to you is the following.  It has been my privilege over the last 40+ years to interview leaders in 160 Fortune 500 Companies and endless small companies.

    It is those many interviews, I discovered the 9 ½ Secrets the Most Successful People Use to Get the Most from Their Time and Live a More Productive, Fulfilling Life.

    During all those years, as soon as I discovered a tool or technique that worked, I would test it by sharing it with others.  The 9 ½ SECRETS that you will have access to with these blogs will have been tested, refined and proven with the insights and brilliance of thousands of people.

    My Story

    That is the story of how I discovered the 9 ½ SECRETS the Most Successful People Use.  And I can honestly share with you, these 9 ½ SECRETS have changed my life.

    I am convinced today I am getting the most from my time, starting with the awareness I don’t control my time, but just this action NOW.  For the sake of full disclosure and transparency, I’m not perfect.  I am always learning.

    My goal of these blogs is to share my journey in discovering, using and enjoying the 9 ½ SECRETS so that you can also discover, implement and enjoy them.

    One other thing I want to share with you.  I have had a forty year battle with happiness.  What is it and how do I get more of it?  I’ve made lots of mistakes.  But I feel finally today I know what happiness is, and how to enjoy more of it.  I also want to share my mistakes about happiness so you can avoid them.  And my discoveries about happiness so you can enjoy them.

    My Promise for Your Story

    In the blogs to come, I will share with you every important detail of my story so you can make it part of your story.  If you review each of the coming ten blogs, you will understand exactly:

    – What the 9 ½ SECRETS the Most Successful People Use are

    Challenges/Problems related to each and how to overcome them

    Benefits you can expect from each.

    Your Part to Receive Full Benefits of the 9 ½ SECRETS

    1. Share with me the answer to the question that will follow each blog.
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    Reviewing – Challenge/Problem Category

    Secret 1   The Most Successful People
    Start with what they control – just
    this action now.

    I Can’t Control My Time

    As seen above, no one can control time because that is the way we measure the turning of the earth.  And no one can make that go faster or slower.

    The Good News is, you just need to get the most from just this next action.  When you do that you will be getting the most from your time and live a more productive, fulfilling life.

    This process is called Aligned Thinking.  These 9 ½ SECRETS will help you do what most believe impossible: consistently align just this action to – the riches – the values – the life you really want.

    We will help you get the most from your time by acknowledging we do not control time, but just this action in time.  These blogs will show you how the Most Successful People get the most from just this action and build the Aligned Thinking Habit to do it consistently day in and day out.

    Reviewing – Benefit Category

    The Easiest Way to Get the Most from Your Time

    Since the only thing you really control is just this next action NOW, getting the most from your time and living a more productive, fulfilling life become elegantly simple.  You just have to focus on getting the most from just this next action NOW.  The good news, when you understand SECRETS 2 – 9 ½, you’ll understand the simplicity of getting the most from just this next action.

    In each of the following blogs, I will explain one of the remaining nine SECRETS, including what SECRETS 9 ½ is and why you need a ½ SECRET.

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