Earlier in my life, I would say “Definitely, no doubt. It is very selfish.”
But 40 years of experience and interviews with leaders in 160 Fortune 500 Companies have shown me how wrong I was. If you can answer just three questions, you’ll see that it is not only not selfish, but smart – even brilliant. Why? This is the Secret very successful people use to motivate and optimize both their personal and professional accomplishments and satisfaction. Those three questions are:
- What is the most motivating and satisfying thing for you?
- What is best for those you are related to/serve?
- What is an easy example to better understand answers one and two?
What is Most Motivating and Satisfying for You?
When you are most motivated and satisfied?
– When you do what you are told?
– When you do what your boss wants?
– When you do what you must do?
– When you do what you really want?
The obvious answer is when you do what you REALLY want.
But you might rightly say, this brings up a real problem. With boss, peers, clients and others at work and spouse, children, parents and friends at home, how can I possibly be always totally involved in my MIN?
The Freedom Secret – when fully understood – will solve this question for you. Here is the short version.
|The Freedom Secret
1. You freely choose your “P” (Primary thing you want).
2. If the “NC” is to costly, change the “P”.
3. Caution: As soon as you do something because so-and-so said so,
A Simple Example.
You don’t like getting up on cold mornings to go to work. The un-insightful you could say, “I hate this, but the boss will really be mad at me if I don’t come in.” You just make yourself the victim of the boss! Caution: any time you do something because so-and-so said so, you make yourself a victim of so-and-so.
Using the Freedom Secret, you say, “I don’t like to get up on cold mornings, but it is the ‘NC’ to my ‘P.’ What is my ‘P’?
“I really want to get ahead. My ‘P’ is to build a great future for myself and my family. I accept the ‘NC’ because I really want this great future, i.e. I do it because I want to.”
It is still hard to get up! But who is more motivated and even satisfied? The person who is getting up because “the boss said so?” Or the person who sees getting up because this the “NC” to get what he/she really wants, a great future for himself/herself and the family. Using the Freedom Secret you can be free in all you do. This means because you are free in all you do, you can be more motivated and accomplish more than the person who is a victim of the boss or the situation.
What is best for those you are related to/serve?
Again, consider these three examples:
Do you want your spouse to do something good for you because they love you and want you to be happy, or because they have to?
Do you want your boss to be good to you because he/she really cares about you – being good to you is what they really want? Or because he/she has to even though they would rather not?
This can even apply to the clerk at Starbucks. Do you want to be served by a person who really wants to serve you – and you get the feeling they delight in serving you the best latte? Or the person that obviously serves you because they must? The sooner they get you out of the way, the better!
Again, the world would be a more motivated happier place if everyone understood and lived by the Freedom Secret.
What is an easy example to better agree with answers one and two?
A person of the last century that is most famous for serving the lowest of the low in the most miserable conditions was now Saint Mother Teresa. She could not have done what she did, and how she did it, if she had to.
Reading the life and works of Mother Teresa from many sources, it is obvious to me that she always did what she really wanted. Her “P” was to serve Christ in the poor of Calcutta. Her “NC” is working with the very, very poor with very little to work with.
Suggestion: read the full SECRET 5 below. Ask yourself, “Does Saint Mother Teresa seem like one of those Most Successful People?
The Most Successful People
know it is not selfish but smart
to motivate their life by clearly
focusing on what they REALLY want.
Problem/Challenge of this Blog: Life doesn’t have much meaning anymore
If you are always doing things because of so-and-so, you are making yourself a victim. Living as a constant victim certainly does lack meaning. The Freedom Secret can help you overcome this quickly.
Benefit of this Blog: Optimize TOTAL Life Meaning
Aligned Thinking helps you optimize TOTAL life meaning with just this next action by doing what most people believe impossible:
– Consistently align just this next action to – the riches – the values – the life – you REALLY want.
Even with boss, clients, and peers at work and family and friends at home, the Freedom Secret can guide you to eventually do just this next action because it relates to – the riches – the values – the life – you REALLY want.
And when you can do it consistently with just this next action, with practice you can do it with every action. On that day you have Optimized TOTAL Life Meaning
Suggestion: Leave us a comment how you can use the Freedom Secret to optimize your life.